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A girl brings her boy friend home to meet her parents. After dinner, her mother tells her father, a business tycoon, to find out about the young man. He invites the boy to his study for green tea. "So what are your plans?" the father asks...Appraisal Lessons From Girl Friend(s)…
Appraisal Lessons From Girl Friend(s)… Got this as a fwd..A very nice read.. Explain Some real facts with the help of girlfriend example (: D by one of the CTS blogger.) I hope it may be of some help to you in your personal life and...22 things to keep
You are what you eat -and what you don't eat. Similarly, life depends on what you keep and what you don't keep. There are many things in life that people may keep, but only a few are truly worth keeping. Here is a list of what to keep (and how)...
Pesamma samosa vikkalam (We can sell samosa instead) :
Very interesting and thought-provoking Conversation. Those understanding Tamil will enjoy it more. However, an English Translation is given side by side. A small suggestion to those who know Tamil, just ignore the English Translation and...
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A girl brings her boy friend home to meet her parents. After dinner, her mother tells her father, a business tycoon, to find out about the young man. He invites the boy to his study for green tea.
"So what are your plans?" the father asks the boy.
"I am an religious scholar and want to marry your daughter" he replies.
"A scholar," the father says. "Admirable, but what will you do to provide a nice house
for my daughter to live in, as she's accustomed to?"
"I will study," the young man replies, "and God will provide for us."
"And how will you buy her a beautiful engagement ring, such as she deserves?" asks the father.
"I will concentrate on my studies," the young man replies, "God will provide for us."
"And children?" asks the father. "How will you support children?"
"Don't worry, sir, God will provide," replies the boy.
The conversation proceeds like this, and each time the father questions, the boy insists that God will provide.
Later, the mother asks, "How did it go?"
The father answers, "He has no job and no plans, but the good news is that he thinks I'm God." 
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Appraisal Lessons From Girl Friend(s)…
Got this as a fwd..A very nice read..Explain Some real facts with the help of girlfriend example (: D by one of the CTS blogger.)
I hope it may be of some help to you in your personal life and professional life
I have copied the content below for your convenience.
Appraisal Lessons From Girl Friend(s)..!
Disclaimer:
The content below is purely out of imagination to get a few smiles across your face.
Any reference to any one reading this is may be just coincidence.
Another appraisal and filling up the document one more time. I was really serious about getting a good feedback this time but I want to know how.
I can only think of my friend who has got a 1st bucket in all his previous appraisal. He told me what people expect from us and how he learnt this things. I really got shocked hearing from where he got his lessons. It’s none other than his girl friend(surprised right?.. even me too). If you have little patience you can learn the following lessons.
Note:
What this post has for you?
• For Guys who have/had Girl friends, get a good laugh for the lessons you have already learnt.
• Those who are trying to have a girl friend, Be Prepared.
• And for those who can’t get one(like me)..it gives you few more reasons to feel better.It’s time to move on … and learn some Corporate Lessons from Your Girl Friend(s)
Here’s the conversation between me and my friend
Lesson 1:
Friend: You and your girl friend are returning from a movie in your bike. You have a lot of important assignments. so you tell her that you have some work and drop her somewhere near her place or somewhere where she can catch a bus/auto.
You ask her whether you can drop her at her place.
Her reply will be “It’s OK. You carry on with your work”.
What will you do?
Me : Drop her there and leave???
Friend: Missing it. Never try to do that (unless in the scenario that I tell you later)..Think again
when girl says NO … it means YES(most of the times).
Me :ho.. what does that mean?
Friend : Confusing??? the explanation is beyond the scope of our conversation. Let’s see what should we do instead.
You should say “Its’ ok. I’ll drop you”.
She will decline repeatedly saying “Hey, It’s Fine”(notice that she won’t make an attempt to get down from the bike).
So don’t mess up. Just drop her at her place.
Do you get something from the above??
Me : NO??
Friend : Come on, this is the most important attitude your boss expects from you and we should definitely have this atleast in our appraisal Document/Resume etc..
and it is
“TAKING RESPONSIBILITY”..
You go, communicate and share work from your team mates. Even if you are held up with your work and they too are hesitant to share it with you.I was bowled first ball..
Lesson 2:
Friend : Consider the scenario in lesson 1 till you ask her whether you can drop her at her place. And she will reply “It’s OK.You carry on with your work. I’ll get a bus/Auto”. This time she says it firmly.(And even gets down from your bike during the conversation)
What will you do?
Me : (casually)will follow what you said in Lesson 1..
Friend: NO NO NO.. Don’t do that. If you do that then you will be accused of anywhere between
*thinking that she is so stupid to catch a bus or auto by herself
to
*Very dominant or * trying to control her
Me: ????
Friend : complicated Right?
Me: Yes.
Friend : Don’t worry.. you will get used to it
In this scenario when a girl says NO she means NO..You better leave her so that she can go by herself.
Understand something
Me : Though I can sense something I can’t be clear.
Friend: Our lesson is Simple
“ENCOURAGE PEOPLE TO TAKE REPONSIBILITY”.
A good way to get things done.Lesson 3:
(Are you a guy with a girl friend from some other place? then this is for you..)
Friend : She comes to you and says her parents(your may be in-laws) are coming here and she needs to book tickets for them. But she is scared to stand in the counter early in the morning. Believe me, you will hear statements like this and she don’t know how she is going to book the tickets. Even the site is not working nowadays J
What will you do ?
Me : Tell her to try the site one more time or encourage her that she can get ticket in the counter??
Friend: If so, then you should be exiled to some unknown planet.
You should instead wake up at 5(or sleep in the station) go to the counter and book her ticket. Remember you should do this by yourself rather than she asking you for help(and she won’t infact).
Me: So does that mean I should go to office by 5 or 6 in the morning?
Friend: Don’t worry, no job is so demanding.
Actually it’s a tip for success..
volunteer to help your boss in preparing that important presentation or helping with some documentation when they are looking ways for doing it..
“TAKING ADDITIONAL RESPONSIBILITIES OTHER THAN YOUR WORK WILL MAKE PEOPLE NOTICE YOU”.Note:
Don’t be so stupid to ask your girl friend to book ticket for your parents or your boss to help in your own Presentation.
I started feeling happy that I am learning something though it is confusing.
Lesson 4:
Friend : Have you ever wondered what’s the difference between giving treat to your friend who is a boy and your girlfriend.
Me: Nope.
Friend : Here it is.. When you give treat to a guy you need to take him alone (or your friends if you wish)..
But when you say treat to your girlfriend you end up taking a big gang.(she will say that they are for company since she can’t come alone. If so, then what are you for?)
Ok that’s out of our scope again. Let’s come back to business.
You are taking her and her friends for a treat. You book tickets for a movie and then a lunch at someplace.
Be careful the outcome of this can change your life.So here’s some possible scenarios and their outcomes.
•The movie is Good and you got a good lunch – Her friends tell her that she is very lucky to have a guy like you( that’s as lucky as getting a first bucket)
•The movie is bad but you managed for a better(heavy) lunch – Her friends tell her that you are okay and you are lucky to get her(Second Bucket hmmm…)
•Both are bad – You end up looking like a joker mocked by her friends often( if your girlfriend is with you for so long). Her friends may even advice her to think twice about you (Worse than a 3 or 4th bucket)
It’s better you arrange for another movie and lunch soon. Of course, after a lot of research.
Got anything??
Me: ????
Friend: We have got the greatest lesson man…“THE ART OF LEADERSHIP”. Remember A LEADER CAN ONLY BE AS HAPPY AS HIS/HER TEAM…!
Oh.. I am getting enlightened
Lesson 5:
Friend: You both decide to go somewhere for lunch. After a lot of discussion you can’t suggest any place and she suggested some place. You go there and the food is terrible.
What will be your reaction?
Me: Tell her that her choice is bad.
Friend: Gone. She will get upset. Then you end up eating there more often for the sake of consoling her.
So tell her that it’s your own fault as you should have known some good restaurants.
Instead, you go to the place you suggested where everything is good and she orders something. It turns out to be great.
Don’t try to boast that you always make good choice. Just tell her that her choice is always the best(should be..that’s why you are her boyfriend)
Me: I got it. We should take responsibility for failures..
Friend : In that line.To be precise it is
” BE READY TO TAKE THE BLAME AND SHARE THE FAME..”I started comparing now, which one is difficult getting a good appraisal or having a girl friend…
Lesson 6:
Friend: Next one is short and simple.
Your girl friend asks you to join for a movie that she is going with her friends
Imagine What will happen even if you are 5 minutes late? I need not explain about the outcome.
It always better waiting rather than to make her wait.
So reach the theatre before her.
Once the movie is over make sure that you always start after she had left with her friends.
And our final lesson is
“ALWAYS REACH OFFICE BEFORE YOUR BOSS AND LEAVE AFTER YOUR BOSS”So I hope you had a good time learning these lessons.
Implementing these may help you professionally but i don’t know how much this can help you personally.
All the best for your appraisal…Now I came out smiling that I found the reason for two things.
How to get a good appraisal
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- GLADWIN JOSEPH published a blog post 22 things to keepYou are what you eat -and what you don't eat. Similarly, life depends on what you keep and what you don't keep. There are many things in life that people may keep, but only a few are truly worth keeping. Here is a list of what to keep (and how) for a brighter, happier and more fulfilling life.
1) Keep calm. Life can be unnerving and if you don't make an effort to keep collected and focused, you could easily lose your cool. Take regular, conscious deep breaths to calm and center yourself.
2) Keep your chin up. Not only is it good for your posture and diminishes your double chin, it also helps you maintain an "I can handle it" attitude. By keeping your chin up, you can keep your head above water.
3) Keep your spirits high. Always maintain a positive and joyful attitude. Remember that no one can perk you up like yourself. Keep your spirits high when the going gets rough by focusing on your dreams and counting your blessings.
4) Keep your word. The true measure of a man is if he keeps his word. Honorable and trustworthy is the man who stands by what he says and promises. It is important to think well before speaking because once a word is uttered and released into the universe, its vibrations could no longer be erased.
5) Keep in time with your inner drummer. Don't be swayed by others into following the confusing beat of their drums. Although it is sometimes necessary to adjust to the pace of others, it is best to keep in step with your personal rhythm and to dance to your own music.
6) Keep in touch with the child in you. The source of creativity in your life is that little child within you. He questions, he marvels, he imagines and invents. Stay in touch with him, and be young and creative for life!
7) Keep abreast of the times. The world is moving so fast. Know what's happening, what's in style, what's au courant, what's relevant, what's important. Learn the hottest trends and the latest in technology. Don't be caught in a time warp or you'll be left behind.
8) Keep in shape. Your shape shows your state of health. Your body is the vessel that you journey through life in. Keep it healthy and strong. Don't be one of those people who say, "I'm in shape; round is a shape!"
9) Keep your mouth shut. People talk too much. We language ourselves to our own destruction and defeat. Know when to talk and when to shut up. Avoid being too verbose. Oftentimes, silence speaks more eloquently than words.
10) Keep good friends. Good friends are hard to find. Nurture friendships that make your plight through life easier, more wonderful and meaningful. Truly poor is the man who has no good friends.
11) Keep great memories, not heavy objects. In the very end, good memories of life are what we will be left with, not jewels and riches that we can't bring when we finally go. Live each moment beautifully. Linked together, these magical moments create a magnificent life.
12) Keep a diary. Writing a journal is therapeutic. Record the important events in your life, your dreams and aspirations, even your failures and disappointments. When you trace back events in your life, you are bound to learn lessons from them as well as find great inspiration and strength.
13) Keep saying grace and thanks. Blessed is he who says grace before he eats and gives thanks for all the gifts he receives daily. Maintain a thankful attitude and focus on your blessings instead of disappointments.
14) Keep on moving forward. The universe moves forward in time. Don't get stuck in yesterday; make an effort to move ahead to a better life. Drop those unnecessary pieces of material and emotional baggage that weigh you down and keep you from flying to your loftiest dreams.
15) Keep out of danger. He who exposes himself to danger finds it. Don't court danger; avoid it. As they say, an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure. Look out for number one (that's you!), and always stay safe and sound.
16) Keep up the good work. Success is built upon success. The more you do, the more you achieve; the more you achieve, the better you get at doing it. Make success a habit by keeping up the good work.
17) Keep young. Do everything in your power to stay strong, supple and youthful. Think young; feel young. A wise man once said "It is never too late to be what you might have been." Remember that age is a number and that youth is an attitude.
18) Keep on dancing. Life is a dance through space and time. Embellish whatever music life plays for you with your own fresh orchestration and creative choreography. Be excited in your heart and keep your feet light with happiness.
19) Keep on loving. Love is the reason we were created. Love diminishes when hoarded but multiplies when shared. Give it and feel it overflow in your heart. Love cures all sadness, pain and sorrow. Lonely is he who does not give love away and therefore gets none in return.
20) Keep on dreaming. Most men, even if they are young, are dead - that is, if they can no longer dream. Our dreams are what keep us young and alive; they give us that sparkle in our eyes. Our dreams keep us going even while everything around us says, "Stop."
21) Keep on hoping. Never lose hope. Tomorrow will be another day that will bring new hope and greater blessings. Keep faith in the abundance of the universe and the mystery and perfection of life. Hope for nothing but the best and that's what you will be granted.
22) Keep on believing. Belief is the mother of reality. What you believe becomes your truth. Believe in yourself, believe in the magic of the universe, believe in the power of your dreams. And most of all, believe you can do it, so you can have all your heart's desires!
These You Must Not Keep
1) Don't keep up with the Joneses. Just because your neighbor bought a red Ferrari, you, too, must get one. Don't join the bandwagon and keep away from the "herd mentality." Too much unhappiness in this world is caused by comparisons - comparing yourself and trying to measure up to other people. There is really no need to live up to others' expectations if it would just bring you inconvenience and misery.
2) Don't keep issues and grudges. The reason most of us stay miserable is because we keep issues, grudges, and problems. Detox yourself of complaints and issues that keep you from being the best that you could be. Try to solve all problems that beset you; never leave anything unresolved. The questions and puzzles of life are what make it challenging and exciting.
3) Don't keep resentments and memories of painful experiences. Life is not a bed of roses so you must learn to let go of negative feelings and memories of painful experiences. It's hard to go on living with a heavy heart. Pardon, forgive, forget if you can, and move on.
- GLADWIN JOSEPH published a blog post Pesamma samosa vikkalam (We can sell samosa instead) :.
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Pesama Samosa vikkalam
(We can sell samosa instead)Hi,
This a real incident happened to one of my friend and so please read through the complete blog and you would be speechless by the end of the blog.
It was my usual train journey to home from work boarding the 20:50 train at Paranur. When the train was about to start from Guduvanchery, one Samosa vendor with his empty samosa basket boarded the train sat next to my seat. As the compartment was sparsely crowded and also my destination station is far away, I felt like interacting with the Samosa vendor for sometime as a time pass.
v Me: “Innaikku Samosa full sales pola!” (Seems like you have sold all the samosas today)
v Samosa Vendor: Smilingly, “Aamanga Kadavul punniyathula innaikku full salesnga (Yes, by God’s grace full sales today)
v Me:“Paavamga aanal, Full day ippdi sales pannal tired aayida maateengala (I really feel pity on you people. Wont you get tired if you do this tiresome job all the day?”)
v Samosa Vendor: “Enna saami seiya.. adhanae pozhappu… Ippdi samosa vithakka dan Oru samosaku 75 paisa commission kuduppanga” (What to do sir! This is our job. Only if we sell samosas like this everyday, we will be getting a commission of 75Paise per samosa we sell
v Me:“Oh appdiya! Oru naalaikku evvalavu Samosa sales aagum?” (Oh is it! On an average, how many Samosas you sell every day?”)
v Samosa Vendor: “Peak timena 3000-3500 samosa ore aalu vithuruvom. Dull time na 1000 kooda theradhu.. Thoraiyama 2000 samosa vippom oru naalaikku” (If it is peak time, we sell around 3000-3500 samosas per peson. If dull time not even 1000 will move on that day. On an average, it will be around 2000 samosas we sell everyday)
I was speechless for a second, since if it is 75paise per samosa and that guy says he sells at an average of 2000 samosas every day which means his daily earnings is Rs.1500 approx and his monthly earnings come to Rs45000 per month.(OMG!!!) I further intensified my questioner and this time not for time pass but out of curiosity.
v Me: “Samosa neenga seiveengala?” (Will you prepare samosa yourself?)
v Samosa vendor: “Ileenga. Enga mudhalali samosa mastera vachu seiya solluvaru. Samosa vithu kaasu kuduppom. Evvalavu vithomo adhukku maenikku 75kaasu nu pottu kudupparu. (No. Our owner prepares these samosas through samosa vendor and we just sell them here. After selling, we will give the money to him and he will give us a commission of 75paise per samosa we sell.)
I was unable to speak a single word further. But that person continued.
v Samosa vendor: “Aana onnunga.. Evvalavu sambadichalum Kudiliyae poidudu paadhi panam… Meedhi panatha vachu dan matha businessae odudu” (But onething, Most of our earnings are being spent on Drinks itself. Only with the remaining amount we are able to take care of other business)
v Me: “Matha businessa! Adhu enna!!” (Other business!! What is that?”)
v Samosa Vendor: “Land businessunga… Indha samosa kaasa saethu vachu 2007 la Urapakkathula 1.5 grounds 3lakhs ku vaanginaen adha konjam kaalam munnadi 15 Lakhs ku vithaen. Vandha panathula 5 Lakhs ku Uthiramerur la Land vaangi potrukken” ( One Ground is 2400 Sq Ft) (It is land business. In 2007 I bought 1.5 grounds of land at Urapakkam for 3 Lakhs and I have sold it few months ! back for 15 Lakhs. With that money, I have purchase some Land in Uthiramerur for 5 lakhs.)
v Me: “Micha panatha enna paneenga (What did you do with the remaining amount?)
v Samosa Vendor: “Micha panam 6 Lakhsa Ponnu kalyanathukku odhukki vachuttaen, 4 lakshatha Bankla pottutaen.” (With the remaining amount, I have set aside 6 lakhs for my Daughter’s marriage and 4 lakhs deposited it in bank).
v Me:“Sir evvalavu padichirukeenga?” (How much have you studied?)
v Samosa Vendor:“moonavadhu passunga.. naalavadhula niruthikitten. Aana ezhuda padikka theriyumunga” (Third standard pass. Stopped studies when I was in 4th. . But I know how to read and write)
I was almost in a shocked state and the further statement of him nailed me right in the head.
v Samosa vendor: “Sir ungala maadhir neraiya paeru Office ku Tie Kattitu, Boots pottukittu, English paesittu, AC roomla vela seiveenga aana Azhukku thuni pottutu irukkara naanga vangara SambalamVaanguveengala nu Sandhegam dan” (There are many people like you who dress well wearing tie, shoes, talks fluently in English. Work in AC room. But I don’t think you guys earn as much as we do wearing dirty clothes and sell Samosas.)
What can I speak after this!! I am talking to a Millionaire!!!
At this point of time, the train chugged into Chrompet station and the Samosa vendor started from his seat.
v Samosa vendor:“Sir, enn station vandruchu.. paakalam…” (See you sir. My station has come.)
v Me:“Paakalamga” (Take care..)
Well, what can I say after this incident!!!!! - GLADWIN JOSEPH joined the group Connect Galaxy
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